How to be proud of yourself – 5 Tips

What would your life be like if instead of feeling guilty or ashamed of being who you are, you felt proud? What if instead of spending your days blaming yourself for your failures, past mistakes, and all the ways you think you are not good enough, you spent them doing the exact opposite?

Transforming the rejection we feel for ourselves into an appreciation of our qualities and self-love gives rise to the desired good: personal power, which often translates self-esteem into actionability, security, and strength. If you want to experience this, here are some ways to start:

1. Identify things you are grateful for

You may spend a lot of time comparing yourself to others in a negative way. If you realize you are doing this, ask yourself what things about yourself you are grateful for. Then focus on this for a couple of minutes, or longer if you wish, and soon you will begin to feel more positive.

2. Identify what triggers your negative thoughts

Maybe it is a habit like starting the day, looking in the mirror and starting to criticize you, or maybe certain contexts, places, or people activate these kinds of reactions more often. Identify them and then find a way to work on them: is there anything you can change?

For example, if being locked up and alone at home leads you to ruminate on your thoughts and attack you, taking a walk to clear your mind might be a good idea. If you can’t get rid of it, ask yourself if you can change your point of view about it, so that it stops being so negative.

3. Transform your negative thoughts into useful questions

The next time you have a negative thought, try to turn it into a question that will help you understand and overcome it. For example, if you say to yourself, “I’m never going to find a job,” stop for a moment and reflect on this thought.

Most likely you will then realize that it is not a fact, but a belief that arises from your anxiety or fear. Once this is done, try to transform it into a question that brings you closer to your goal, such as: what can I do to perform better in interviews, how can I write my CV better?

4. Make a list of your achievements

Often the feeling of being undervalued can lead you to minimize your achievements or nullify them, which definitely feeds the belief that “we are not good enough”.

Start to face this belief with facts: consciously make a list of your achievements, and then allow yourself to feel really proud of them, observe this feeling and how your mind, your posture, your perspective on life is when you experience it.

5. Don’t over-identify with your mistakes

The next time you realize that you have done something wrong or that you could have reacted better, instead of telling you that you are the worst of all and feeling like a failure, remember that we all make mistakes and this does not mean that we are not capable people.

Simply in life, when you try something new, you make mistakes, and this is part of the learning process. So try to put failures into perspective and understand that just because you did something wrong doesn’t mean you are wrong.